Now that we’re at October’s doorstep, I have been taking more time to reflect on so many things. I’ve been interacting with more folks than ever before; in public, online websites, forums, etc… Much of the conversation is centered around Autism Spectrum Disorder and the passion I have for neurodiversity. It has been eye-opening to say the least, and I have to have a lot of patience and understanding (thank you Sociology and Communication Skills college courses for giving me such phenomenal tools).
I’ve been thinking a lot about our summer, about how great it was – but – how unsustainable it was for Jen and I to put work on the back burner and focus on the kids for 90 days! There’s NO regrets here, just a determination to figure out how we CAN make it sustainable next summer!
It always seems to take a month or two for us to get into routines that work. Here’s a quick rundown of things that are working:
- Jen has made some changes to the kitchen that have been well received by Zoë, Sam and myself
- We’re eating dinner and breakfast at the kitchen table
- We’re gradually weaning the kids off Television
- We put the music on more often and have sudden random dance parties
- Jen makes the kids a ‘green’ smoothie at least 5 mornings each week (Sam calls it Miih Piggee Joooce – Miss Piggy Juice) it’s packed with amazingness (kale, almond milk, chia seed, pineapple, mango, and pro-biotic)
- I’m trying to make as many ‘fun’ foods as possible
- We’re doing art, dressing up, playing with dolls, creating, making, staying busy
We had our annual beginning of school meeting with Sam’s teachers. It’s always interesting to meet the new teacher for the mainstream class. We get to describe our amazing boy and it’s a lot of fun. This year, Sam sat at the table with us during the meeting. He stayed, present, and listened intently. Sam even inserted his corny laughter when we said something funny. The challenge this year is that his inclusion time in the mainstream classroom drops dramatically because of the increased emphasis on academics.
Jen and I are still seeing a family counselor. It is such an important component to keeping our heads from exploding. We’re turning our focus toward helping our family cope with stress and anxiety now (specifically) and I’ve determined that I need to see a separate counselor to help me address many of the things I have placed ‘on a shelf’; my father’s death, my biological mother’s death, the ever-growing pile of important jobs around the house that I cannot complete, etc.
Halloween is around the corner. It’s very much on our minds given Sam’s relationship with the holiday. This year Sam seems to be having a positive attitude about it but it’s early… The most vile and disturbing imagery will inevitably emerge; mannequin-like bodies hanging from trees or eaves, dismembered bodies and their parts, blood, guts… you know, all that amazing imagery that has nothing to do with Halloween’s roots or of the season where we celebrate harvest and the coming winter.
We’re looking forward to getting back into the swing of things! We’re going to make a new push to keep this blog active. It’s just so challenging, but it is very much worth the effort!